The Crucial Differences between Arrogance and Confidence
Mohammed Ali was confident (maybe the most confident athlete we’ve ever seen), and Alex Rodriguez is arrogant. There’s a world of difference between the two, and a gentleman fully understands walking the thin line – but never crossing it – between arrogance and confidence, but we all know that the ladies love a confident gentleman.
It’s absolutely impossible to get anything (and we mean absolutely anything) in this world of ours without possessing a deep-rooted sense of self-confidence that you can lean into in the middle of uncertain situations. We live in a world that is constantly and consistently transformed right beneath our feet, with all kinds of challenges and changes thrown at us that simply couldn’t have been anticipated.
You Need Self-Confidence to Live a Gentlemanly Life
Without a reservoir of self-confidence to dig deep into, we wouldn’t be able to accomplish our dreams, wouldn’t be able to accomplish our goals, and wouldn’t be able to lead the gentlemanly life we’ve always dreamed of.
At the same time, you never want to run the risk of crossing the line into full-blown arrogance, like our man Kanye West been doing the last decade, though the line can be blurred significantly more than you ever would have expected. Here’s a quick guide to help any gentleman gain full control over their lives through confidence while leaving arrogance checked at the door.
A Confident Man Laughs at Their Own Shortcomings and Arrogant One Exposes Those in Others
One of the easiest ways to determine whether or not you’re dealing with a man filled with self-confidence or one simply projecting a confident air hiding behind real arrogance is whether or not that gentleman is able to laugh at their own shortcomings or recoils immediately and rebuts with an attack on the shortcomings of someone else.
Confident men and women have absolutely no need to defend their shortcomings, mostly because they understand and accept that everyone has shortcomings but they are also committed to improving on these weak areas.
Arrogant individuals are far more narcissistic and cannot even conceive of accepting that they may have a flaw, and will go on the offensive when that flaw is exposed to destroy someone else’s confidence.
A Confident Man Learns and Adapts, While Arrogant One Submits His Position Early On
There is certainly something to be said for sticking to your guns as a gentleman and defending your position and what you feel to be truly right and just, but that’s a world apart from simply reacting to any and every attack on your beliefs with blind hatred, venom, and disbelief – especially when confronted with new facts and figures.
Confident men – true gentleman – understand that the world we live in is fluid and ever-changing, and that what we perceive to be truth today made tomorrow be disproved. Always interested in gathering as much information as possible before making a determination, gentleman will stick to their guns and defend their position that means quite a bit to them, though they will not come that others or get into a “battle of wits” that eventually ends up as ad hominem attacks because they feel threatened.
At the end of the day, there is a tremendous difference between cool confidence and self-belief and a false arrogance that projects real weakness in an individual. Strive to become confident and abandon any arrogance whenever you begin to see it rear its ugly head. You don’t want to end up like the Kardashians.